Everyone has fears…everyone is scared of at least one thing. Sometimes it is embarrassing to admit that we’re scared. Admitting that were scared takes a lot of work and self-talk. You know, a couple days ago when I had my lesson with my trainer I realized that I had a fear deep inside of me that I didn’t even know was there.
My fear is the speed of my horse. You might be thinking right now, why are you scared of the speed? Well, I didn’t even realize I had this fear until my trainer brought it up. I have trouble letting go when my horse canters because I don’t want the horse to get out of control fast. My trainer asked me that day if I have trouble with the speed of the canter. I responded, “Well, I don’t know.” But I did know. I just didn’t want to admit it.
So, the whole moral of this story is that sometimes horseback riding makes us come out of our comfort zones. We can’t just stay in a box our whole life. I had to step out of the “stall” and experience things that I never experienced before. It doesn’t mean when horseback riding just let your horse run around, crazily and be dangerous. It means that maybe we can let go a bit and relax and then our horses are able to relax as well. I realized that my fear was something I couldn’t fix physically, but mentally. I came up with a solution that when my fear decides to peak out I just have to swallow it back down my throat and talk to myself.
So, if you have a fear that you are trying to overcome then talk to someone. Either your trainer or anyone that is close to you. Admit that you have a fear. That is the #1 hardest thing for horseback riders to do because they don’t want to be judged or hurt. Your mentor can help you through your fear and maybe even give you some tips to overcome it. What my trainer helped me realize was that, if I got tense then my horse got tense and then nothing would go smoothly. The big thing for me is I have to learn to trust my horse and to know that everything is going to be okay.