Learn how to live in the now… what do you think that means? Well, it probably has about a hundred different definitions, but today I am only going to focus on one of those definitions… “living in the now” as it relates to horses. Isn’t that why we are all here? To “live in the now” with our horses?
Horses each have their own “horsenalities” as I have learned from previous experiences. Maybe some like to add in that extra buck when you are cueing them into the canter, or maybe their whole focus in life is on what you have in the food bucket, or they are the sweetest horse on the entire earth and all they want to do is spend time with you. As you know, not all horses are the same. They are all so different in their own unique and maybe quirky ways. But no matter what their “horsenality”, horses always live life to the fullest.
Horses have one thing in common…they are a true example of how to live in the now. They live in the now when they decide to spook at a hay bale or puddle. They also do when they engulf down the crunchies you just gave them. They live in the now when you are riding them as they are completely focused on you (even if they might add in the odd spook). My point is that we can learn so much from horses. Horses teach us something everyday whether we like it or not.
All of us at one time or another, need to learn how to live in the present. Sometimes we need to learn how to just stop and relax… maybe let out that breath we have been holding in. We need to learn to give life a chance. When we live in the now, we become more focused then if we are worrying about the struggles of our daily lives. Try not to worry about what tomorrow has to offer or the mistakes you made yesterday, but focus on today. Focus on what you can do to impact the world today. Maybe living in the now means putting the schedule aside or just relaxing with a cup of coffee or maybe it means going to a movie with your friends.
When we as horseback riders learn to live in the now, our horses benefit from that as well. By living in the now around our horses, they become more calm and relaxed. For example, say that I went to the barn and was so worried about my exams for tomorrow (I have to admit that I do it often). When I go catch my horse, my horse can sense how I am feeling, anxious and worried. When my horse senses that then they start acting the same way because horses “mirror” how we act. So here is the scenario… I am completely stressed out and now my horse is stressed out too. Do you think when I get on my horse’s back, it is going to be super easy? Do you think my horse is going to be laid back and calm? Definitely not! Horses feed off our emotions, so me being stressed doesn’t help at all.
We have to learn to not worry about tomorrow, but be present everyday. Once we calm ourselves down and relax a little, our lives look much clearer and our horses appreciate it! Now here is my challenge for you this week…I want you to do whatever you have to do to feel relaxed and calm whether it is reading a book, watching a movie or even just sitting (ha-ha). You will see how different you will feel instead of worrying about what tomorrow is going to offer and your horse will appreciate you so much more! Until next time… don’t forget to hug your horse!
What is your horse’s “horseonality?”